Yes, it has come to this. After more than 7 months with about a dozen total nights of decent sleep, and still having to nurse him to sleep every night (sometimes multiple times a night), we'd all reached our breaking point.
I was having difficulty coming around to the idea, but after reading a post on the
Precious Little Sleep blog about sleep training, I decided it was time. We made sure D was recovered enough from his surgery and on Wednesday night, it was go time.
From the blog, we determined there were 3 separate issues to solve:
1) falling asleep at bedtime (without nursing)
2) not eating at night (night weaning)
3) better napping
These had to be tackled one at a time, in the above order.
To get Dargan falling asleep on his own, I had to get him to dissociate nursing with being put to bed, so we had to rearrange bedtime routine. First nursing, then warm washcloth (or bath if it's a bath night), change into PJs, read some stories, read the bedtime prayer banner, then lay him in the crib, say goodnight, and leave the room.
Wednesday night, he cried for one hour exactly, fell asleep for an hour, cried for another hour, slept for 45 mins, cried for about 15 mins, then slept until 4am. Since night weaning is a separate issue, I fed him at 4am and he slept til 6. This night was HARD.
Night two (Thursday): put him in the crib at 8:20, cried 30 mins, slept until 2:30. Fed him then and again at 5. Up for the day at 6.
Night three (Friday): in the crib just after 7, cried just under 30 mins, up at 1 and 4. Up for the day at 6.
Night four (Saturday): in the crib around 7:30, cried 20 minutes. Up at 1:30 and 4. Slept til 7! He didn't go back to bed as easily after his night wakings, so I put him in his crib awake and the first time he cried less than a minute before falling asleep.
Night five (Sunday): in crib at 7:55, cried 5 (!!!) Minutes. Up at 12 but rocked to sleep by Scott. Up at 2, nursed back to sleep. Up at 4, changed diaper, let him cry...cried for an hour then fell asleep. Had to wake at 6 for daycare.
Night six (Monday): Scott got to do bedtime solo while I was at rehearsal. He fed him a bottle and got him in the crib about 8, less than a minute of fussing before sleep. Woke up at 3:45 for a snack, then slept til 5:30.
Night seven (Tuesday): I'd pumped late in the day at work, so after D nursed in the evening we fed him an extra couple if ounces from a bottle. Put him in the crib at 8ish, he let out one fuss as I left the room, then rolled over and was out! Unfortunately the rest of the night was AWFUL. He woke up crying at 11:30 so we tried letting him cry to go back to sleep. I gave in after an hour, rocked him for half an hour, still not sleeping so I nursed him at 1. He finally feel asleep, got him back in the crib. Cried at 3:30, Scott rocked him back to sleep. Cried again at 4:30, I changed him bc here had a big poo (WHY with the 4am pooping always???), then ended up sleeping in the chair holding him until morning because he wouldn't sleep otherwise. Ugh. Hoping it was just a fluke!
Conclusion/Summary:
After one week we have essentially completed Step 1 - he falls asleep on his own pretty well! Next step is to maintain this and work on staying asleep, especially without nursing. Overall I'm really proud of D for the way he can put himself to bed now. Hoping he keeps it up and we can continue to make progress!